CREATING NEW AND IMPROVED EATING HABITS
So by now, most of those New Year’s Resolutions have gone as flat as the leftove...
Buyer Beware! Finding Good Therapy
No one calls a therapist for fun or when things are going well. You call a therapist when you have tried your best yet continue to get disappointing results and see the need for professional help. Often people tell me they have had my number or website saved for months before they make the first and so significant call. With so many different licenses these da...
Read MorePerfectionism and Self Esteem
Words we’ve all heard often, maybe even said, but what does it really mean? Does it mean you do everything perfectly? Nope. Is it an in-born personality trait? Nope. Is it realistic? Absolutely not! If the goal of being a perfectionist is to be perfect, it begs the question, what do you do perfectly? The answer challenges the very concept quickly. Nothing! If the g...
Read MoreAm I Crazy?
I cannot begin to count the number of times I have been asked this question over the years. It is a serious question that is asked by serious people who want a serious answer. Those asking are feeling confused or frightened, as if their world doesn’t make sense to them anymore and they are struggling just to find a foothold. I believe the real underlying qu...
Read MoreTherapy Dogs Rock! Meet Moves Like Jagger “Willow!”
It's always good to have help at the office and you can see Willow is already hard at work. She ...
The Power of Rituals
New Year’s seems like the perfect time and holiday to talk about the power rituals have in our lives. New Year’s begs us to contemplate events of the past year while anticipating and celebrating the hope of the pristine New Year ahead. We have fireworks, toasts at midnight, a huge disco ball falling every year in Time Square, parties, special foods, to name just a few of the traditions. ...
Read MoreHoliday Stress by Santa Cross
I swear I didn’t really want to write on this topic, but an evil spirit in my ear forced me to do it. I’m pretty sure it’s the same one that is nagging me in my waking and sleeping hours right now. “There’s so much to do, you don’t have time to rest! You already waited too long and will have to stand in line forever at the post office! What do you mean you aren’t baking cookies? ...
Read MoreThe Trouble with Worrying
I am not a fan of worrying. I worked hard to get it out and keep it out of my personal life. Professionally, I frequently share my definition of worrying: we lose what we do have which is NOW in anticipation of some imagined future event that may or may not ever occur. I sincerely believe this is true but was boldly reminded just how much a couple weeks ago. As many know, my lifelong passio...
Read MoreMentors and Why You Want One
I have had the honor of being a mentor to several very special young people over the course of my professional life. It is a joy to watch them create their respective careers and success, some eventually in turn becoming mentors themselves. No one can say how much of the success of these young professionals is because of the mentoring they received, or how much is because successful people find ...
Read MoreSilence Empowers Sexual Perpetrators
Whether it’s the world of sports or the world of politics, sex-related scandals are headline news this week on every channel. As a therapist, I have worked with an endless number of cases involving every type of sexual assault imaginable, and some beyond imagination. As a Human Resources professional, it was my job to investigate claims of sexual harassment from the time the complaint first su...
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